Monday, 28 January 2013

ON LONELINESS


When on my own in public I tend to walk around with my head down, oblivious to whats going on around me, and I'd rather stick my face in a good book than risk the chance of awkward eye contact on the underground.

Everyday I cross paths with hundreds of people I don't know, and although there may be the odd apology for accidentally stepping on someone's toe, or a polite "thank you" when a door is held open, how often do I actually spark up genuine conversation with a stranger? (Drunken slurs on the night bus at 4am don't count!) The answer is never, and what's odd is that despite being surrounded by other people, some who stand far too close to me on the underground for my liking, I often find myself feeling lonely.

I wonder how many new friends I'd make if having a chat with a fellow commuter wasn't so socially unacceptable; there must be millions of people out there who share similar interests to me, who's to say I didn't pass one of them in the street today? We live in an immensely guarded and anti-social culture, which is a shame because meeting new people is fun!

Yesterday I watched 'The Perks of Being a Wallflower', which touches on the subjects of loneliness, mental illness and struggling to make friends. (If you haven't seen it already then be sure to watch it, it's beautiful!) It moved me and also reminded me that everyone feels lonely sometimes. Nobody's life is perfect, no matter how fun, friend-filled and adventurous it may look on their social networking profiles.... but regardless, maybe we should all just be a little less judgmental, be more open and talk more.
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  1. I read the book but haven't seen the film. I am getting more and more introverted and difficult as I get older. I often miss the mad, carefree me of five years ago! x

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  2. this is such a beautiful point! I've faced this challenge a lot recently.

    I've yet to see the film, but the book is one of my favorites.

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  3. I really want to read this book but I can't find it anywhere in my country :/

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  4. Im so glad someone else feels the same way, I find myself becoming more and more introverted as I get older, I so would love to be one of those people who can talk to anybody but its just not me

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  5. I’m going to watch it right away. I’m impressed on this and I’m sure I’ll like it.

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  6. I agree with you when you say be more open and talk more...but the conversation requires two people not just one...otherwise I could do a monologue for ages...I come from another country and find myself extremely lonely being here, sometimes or most of the time? X

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  7. I love this post :) it's not often you see bloggers tackling important social topics like mental illnesses! And I agree wholeheartedly loneliness is a terrible thing. Lately I've been striking up conversation with people at my uni who look a bit glum or sad and I've made so many lovely friends by doing so!

    Smile at a stranger, you never know how much you could brighten up their day!

    XOXO Sade

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  8. I looooved this post! I feel very similar often, & after watching 'The Perks of Being a Wallflower' within a week of it's release, it has become one of my favourite films!xx

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  9. It's great how you share your opinion with us in this post. I totally agree with you, i'd like to start talking with random people but most people think that's extremely weird. Definitely going to watch the perks of being a wallflower (:
    XOXO

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  10. You're not alone, I was actually thinking today about how lonely I feel at uni sometimes even though there are thousands of people there. I've ordered Perks on lovefilm and can't wait to see it :) great post. xx

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  11. I absolutely love everything about perks of being a wallflower, the film is just as good too x

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  12. This is a lovely post, plus the book is one of my favourites! x

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  13. Love this post, I agree so much. I see so many interesting people on the underground that I'd love to talk to.
    For such a busy pec, londons quite unsociable.
    It was so lovely the other week, a man came and sat down next to me on my journey and started a conversation with me x

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  14. I can't agree with you more! I'm fairly shy too - I am always open to conversations with strangers but rarely start them myself. I need to watch this film.

    Becky | lifestyleflash.com

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